How do you lose yourself as a women, wife, mother and lover?

How do you lose yourself as a women, wife, mother and lover? That is a question that I have been asking myself. As you are becoming a women you go through many changes mentally and physically. As a wife you learn, grow, give, and offer. As a mother you forget about yourself and as a lover you please your mate. When do you make time for yourself? But yet you are so happy to do so to make sure they are taken care of before yourself and that is just instinct and learned. 
As I find myself single, I reflect on my pass and realize that the problems where there all along. That I didn't want to except them. 
Now I look back and hope that from my mistakes I may be able to teach my girls and son the importance of loving yourself and trusting your gut feelings. To have faith and trust in how you feel and to love one another regardless of faith, color or race.